Is this you?
I feels like I’m worrying about everything and I know I shouldn’t but I can’t stop. It’s even like I’m worrying about myself worrying.
I feel overwhelmed, I can’t think and I just feel panicked about making decisions and I don’t know how to cope.
I feel blocked.
It feels like I'm stuck in an endless loop. Like walking through treacle - every step is heavy and even routine tasks requires effort to do.
I want more meaning and direction in my life.
I'd just like to have more confidence to do what I want.
Are you ready to feel differently?
When you are calm, you work from your human and more recent part of your brain. This will allow you to think clearly, make decisions - and stick to them!, feel in control. In turn this can let you have more fun and meaning in your life. Maybe you want better relationships with no drama? Sit down at dinner with your family and enjoy it? Or do you want to focus better on your career? It could be that you want space to figure out what gives you meaning and joy? Feel like you are taking care of yourself, feeling healthier, that you can breathe freely. It doesn’t matter what it is you want, when you are in control of yourself you can work towards it.
No matter how much doubt you currently have, you can truly change
You just need a different approach
You need to understand how your mind works so you can access your power
And you need to know how to do this
With SF Hypnotherapy change doesn’t have to be difficult
Below I’m writing a bit more about Stress & Anxiety, IBS, Insomnia etc if you are interested.
Stress and Anxiety
We all have many demands on us and life can feel very stressful. The right amount of pressure can make us more focused and help us get things done. Unfortunately, stress is often more long term and this creates problems for us both emotionally and physically unless we learn how to deal with this effectively.
Feeling overwhelmed, under constant pressure, being excessively worried, fear, struggling to concentrate and focus, avoiding situations, feeling short of breath, tension headaches, tummy problems and much more are symptoms of your brain thinking that you’re in danger. This old part of your brain is there to help you survive, so it mobilises your body’s fight, flight, freeze system when it thinks you’re in danger and need help. Thankfully this is rarely necessary for us, but the system is there and we need to learn how to manage this primitive brain otherwise it can take over and even harm us in the long run.
Anxiety had survival value to us as stone age men and women. And even earlier. Evolution works in its own way and over very long time periods so just because humans have made extraordinary advances "lately", does not mean that the brain has changed in the same way. and Hypnosis, you will learn how to use your brain so it functions well in our modern world. I use Solution Focused questioning to help you find your preferred outcome. For the second part of each session, I use hypnosis to release anxiety and stress, reinforce change and help you feel calm and confident.
Stress comes from a variety of sources such as too much to do; too high or low expectations of yourself or from others; feeling undervalued or without enough meaning in our life; not achieving what you want or expect. This list can go on and on, but the good news is that we can all learn how to relieve stress and anxiety so we can feel more in control of ourselves. That inner control is crucial to feeling how we want, whether that is calm, confident, optimistic, focused or something else. Please read more under the Anxiety & Stress or Other Issues tabs for more specific information.
Working with me using Solution Focused Hypnotherapy will help you understand your mind and how to use it so it is helpful for you. It’s the kind of thing everyone really should have been taught this in school so we all would have a manual to use our amazing capabilities. We also need to know how to reduce our stress levels so we can be in the part of the brain that is positive and creative, where we can make, and stick to, the decisions that will take us to our preferred future.
Are your thoughts racing around so fast that your mind feels blurry and it’s difficult to focus?
Maybe your heart is racing; your tummy is upside down; it’s hard to breathe deeply?
Is it all just too much? You’re struggling to cope and nothing you've tried seems to help much?
Are you sleeping poorly, waking up worrying?
Have you got IBS and it is limiting your life?
Physical issues e.g. Irritable Bowel Syndrome IBS
Many physical issues worsen when you are stressed and feel anxious, and can also have been caused by this. Stress is a natural reaction to something that is perceived as dangerous or threatening. The hormones that flood our bodies in these situations prepare us for "fight or flight" and can therefore help us survive. If the stress is prolonged though, the stress hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol don't go back to normal levels and instead the body starts to become damaged and "burn out" from being in this state of high arousal. The stress hormones drives inflammation in the body and the various neurotransmitters will not be produced in the right quantities to help us function well mentally or physically.
Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps you understand your physical response, reduces the stress response to balance the neurotransmitters and reverse the stress hormones. Feeling out of control is in itself a huge source of stress and anxiety, so we will also set small, realistic goals to help you feel in control again and that you are managing well.
IBS is thought to affect 1 in 5 people (NHS figures) and can be very distressing. It can cause stomach cramps, bloating, diarrhoea and/or constipation. The impact on people’s life can be significant. The symptoms vary between people and can come and go. If you have these kind of problems, remember to see a GP to rule out anything else.
Peter Whorwell, Professor of Medicine and Gastroenterology in the School of Medicine and Director of the South Manchester Functional Bowel Service, has been researching and working with hypnotherapy as an effective treatment for IBS for many years. Clinical trials have shown that hypnotherapy effectively treats Irritable Bowel Syndrome in more than 70% of cases. Most recently, 1000 patients who have suffered from IBS for over two years were given twelve one-hour sessions with above results. Hypnotherapy works by reducing anxiety and stress and helping pain management which is as significant factor in IBS and "retrains" the client's gut to function more normally. More than 90% of the neurotransmitter Serotonin is produced in the gut where it controls eg peristalsis and mucus production which which kays an important role in IBS. Hypnotherapy can help by normalising levels of neurotransmitters and stress hormones.
Research is finding more and more how important sleep is to us. Sleep not only regulates our immune system so we can stay healthy, stay slim, transfer knowledge into long term memory so we can learn new things etc; but it is also crucial to mental health. When we dream, we process problems we have not dealt with during the day (or previously). If we lack sleep, we therefore become more stressed. The tricky bit is that it is very often stress that keeps us awake in the first place...
SF Hypnotherapy helps insomnia by helping the client understand the stress response and what to do about it. The hypnosis and suggestions will further reduce stress and give the client the space needed to implement the changes that will lead to them feeling in control and therefore calmer and being able to sleep.
Low self-confidence and low self-esteem
Self-confidence and self-esteem are linked so that one can lead to the other. The difference is that self-confidence refers to how able you feel you are at doing things, whereas self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself. Therefore you can have high self-esteem but low self-confidence in how to carry out certain tasks or roles. Similarly a person can have low self-esteem, but feel confident in carrying out some tasks.
Good self-esteem is important because it allows a person to try new things and live a more fulfilling life. If things don't work out as expected, you can learn from it and just generally be flexible. People with low self-esteem will find this much more difficult as mistakes (mistakenly) confirm their already fragile view of themselves.
In hypnotherapy we will discuss your issues and goals, help you understand how your brain processes these so you can work with your brain. Then the hypnosis will help you feel more confident and in control and your goals will be reinforced.
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder OCD
Some people just like to have things more in order than others and are naturally inclined to make sure everything is ok. "Are all the windows closed?"; "Did I really make sure the oven was turned off?"- that is fine. However, when obsessive behaviours become a problem, stop you from doing things or give you intrusive and scary thoughts, then it is out of your control.
People with OCD are anxious in general and their OCD gets worse with extra stress e.g. from life events. Checking and taking steps to avoid danger is a normal brain response, triggered by the Limbic system in the brain and is part of our "fight or flight" response. In SF Hypnotherapy, we therefore first work on reducing the underlying stress so the OCD can then be dealt with. I will help you understand and reverse this brain process and set achievable goals. If this stress response is not calmed down, any therapy is much less likely to succeed and it may be too daunting for the client to even begin.